Dealing with Grief

We each will experience our own unique grief.

""What we have enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes a part of us. "  --Helen Keller

Each person will have a very personal, unique journey to travel with the loss of a loved one. The Dealing with Grief section contains information and links that we hope will help during this difficult time.

The Iowa SIDS Foundation is staffed part-time and collaborates with CJ First Candle. If you have an immediate need to talk to someone, please know that grief counselors are only a phone call away, 24 hours a day, seven days a week.   If you or someone you know needs help, call CJ First Candle at 1-800-221-7437 to talk to one of their grief counselors.

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Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep (NILMDTS): For families overcome by grief and pain, the idea of photographing their baby may not immediately occur to them. Offering gentle and beautiful photography services in a compassionate and sensitive manner is the heart of this organization. The soft, gentle heirloom photographs of these beautiful babies are an important part of the healing process. They allow families to honor and cherish their babies, and share the spirits of their lives. The NILMDTS mission statement is to introduce remembrance photography to parents suffering the loss of a baby with the gift of professional portraiture. We believe these images serve as an important step in the family's healing process by honoring their child's legacy.

Do's and Don'ts for Friends and Family: If someone you care about has a baby die of stillbirth, SIDS, SUID, or other cause of sudden infant death, there are things that you can do to help him or her through the grieving process and cope with the death of their baby. The avoidance by friends and family, unsure of what to say or do, only adds to the pain and isolation felt by parents.  This link from CJ First Candle shares basic suggestions for friends and family.

State-by-State Resources:  This site provides a listing of SIDS organizations across the United States.